As you all may have known, my 21st birthday was yesterday, March 20th! For my birthday I didn't want anything extravagant however it was my twenty-first so I wanted to plan something fun... Two major problems: One: Our lives are always ridiculously busy and I never wanted to take the time aside to create set plans, and Two: Trent is a boy, and as we all know, boys can never plan anything! ;) A few days ago on Friday I was giving Trent greif because it was almost my birthday and we hadn't set anything in stone, so he called me up at work and asked if I wanted to go to Park City on Sunday and stay over. Of course, I agreed. Sad thing is - Park City was my idea. I was feeling pretty bummed at this point because I had thought maybe he has already planned that or something else, you see...
About two weeks before I got an email from Trent at work asking my favorite restaurants, when I inquired as to why he said "we're going to lunch for work". And so asking my favorite restaurant makes sense, how? Hahaha... So I had a small hunch that something was up! But at the same time people kept asking me to make plans on the weekend and Trent kept responding with "yeah that's fine!". Which confused me even more... was something planned? Or was I just getting my hopes up?
Saturday night rolls around and we're hanging out with my family in West Haven deciding where to go to dinner... Everyone suggested Chili's. If you know Trent and I very well, we don't know how to cook, and always end up eating at Chili's around 9:00 p.m. That being said, I really, really didn't want to go to Chili's for my birthday dinner; but they were able to talk me into it! We show up at around 6:30 and walk inside, nothing seems out of the ordinary. I see my mom waving us over and I turn the corner to head her way.
Right as I turn, all of my best friends yell "SURPRISE!!". Trent had indeed planned a surprise birthday party for me :) And pulled it off quite successfully, might I add! Even after thinking something was up, I was still very shocked... After that I felt very guilty for giving Trent the run-around on Friday... Haha, love you sweetheart. Thank you for all you do for me! I also love my family very, very much and all those friends that could make it! You guys really are awesome and I'm so grateful to have you all! :)
Here's some photos of the evening!
-Brittni
Monday, March 21, 2011
Monday, March 14, 2011
Opinions.
I find it really hard to discuss 'love' and my relationship with a lot of my friends; those in a relationship themselves and those that are not. I feel like, because they're not Trent and I, they don't know what we're going through or how we understand each other. I either feel like they're too naive or not developed enough to comprehend it on an emotional level. I don't know if that's a selfish feeling on my end, or if it really is how things are. I don't know. I really don't know if I'm a bad person for thinking this way.
I think couples that "never fight" aren't being honest with each other. C'mon, you never disagree on anything? That's bull. I have a lot of best friends and we still disagree on things. If you're not disagreeing on some things, one of you isn't be honest. And that's not love and being "soul-mates"; that's just lying so you don't get into a fight. Yeah - I have jealousy issues, and yes Trent has his problems as well, but we're open about them and talk about them. That's what makes you a great couple.
Talking about your flaws and trying to figure out what you can do to help each other fix them. It means sometimes breaking out of the box and throwing away the rulebook, knowing things may take years to fix, but you want to help them and you don't give up. I know we may not end up together in the end. I know the last 7 months of our relationship hasn't been near as amazing as the first year, but guess what? The 'Honeymoon' stage ends people, and you have to wake up and face each other for the type of people you really are.
What I'm saying is, you're not 'in love' because you've never gotten in a fight and you complete each other sentences and all that jazz... wait til you get into a fight, then see how you come out of it. If you last, that's love. If you're being honest and truthful to yourself, that's love. If you're willing to help each other improve themselves will no reward in the end, that's love. It's something you have to work at every day.
I think couples that "never fight" aren't being honest with each other. C'mon, you never disagree on anything? That's bull. I have a lot of best friends and we still disagree on things. If you're not disagreeing on some things, one of you isn't be honest. And that's not love and being "soul-mates"; that's just lying so you don't get into a fight. Yeah - I have jealousy issues, and yes Trent has his problems as well, but we're open about them and talk about them. That's what makes you a great couple.
Talking about your flaws and trying to figure out what you can do to help each other fix them. It means sometimes breaking out of the box and throwing away the rulebook, knowing things may take years to fix, but you want to help them and you don't give up. I know we may not end up together in the end. I know the last 7 months of our relationship hasn't been near as amazing as the first year, but guess what? The 'Honeymoon' stage ends people, and you have to wake up and face each other for the type of people you really are.
What I'm saying is, you're not 'in love' because you've never gotten in a fight and you complete each other sentences and all that jazz... wait til you get into a fight, then see how you come out of it. If you last, that's love. If you're being honest and truthful to yourself, that's love. If you're willing to help each other improve themselves will no reward in the end, that's love. It's something you have to work at every day.
Friday, March 11, 2011
21!
I am almost 21... and for some reason, I am having a really hard time coping with that age. 21 makes me an adult, but I don't want to be one yet. I don't want to grow up. I don't want to find a career and buy a home and all of that crazy stuff... Do I make any sense? Did any of you ever feel this way?
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Our One Year Anniversary!
So on August 12, 2010 we hit our one year anniversary. :) It felt like it was only a month and BAM here we were at a year! But if you think about it, a year of only seeing each other one weekends, it basically was 30 days! Haha... I'm not very good at telling stories so I'll just give you all a brief outline of the day! First thing you should know is I hate flowers, I'm not sure why but I always have! I remember a boy giving me flowers once for my 16th birthday and I just kinda looked at him like, "and what am I suppose to do with these?". It wasn't very nice. So Trent being the cute boy he is, and knowing my hate for flowers & love for chocolate, got me this!
It was the most delicious thing I've ever had! Once I got past the embarrassment of receiving them at work, I scarfed it all down! (Well, actually, I shared with some coworkers... but hey, just spreading the love right?)
After work I drove down to Bountiful to meet him for our date! We get back to Salt Lake and make a quick stop at a surprise birthday party for one of Trent's coworkers and then we head off to our own dinner. We went to a place (not sure where it's at so you'll have to ask Trent!) called Asian Star... OH my goodness it was soooo yummy.
And that was our day! It was a good year :)
It was the most delicious thing I've ever had! Once I got past the embarrassment of receiving them at work, I scarfed it all down! (Well, actually, I shared with some coworkers... but hey, just spreading the love right?)
After work I drove down to Bountiful to meet him for our date! We get back to Salt Lake and make a quick stop at a surprise birthday party for one of Trent's coworkers and then we head off to our own dinner. We went to a place (not sure where it's at so you'll have to ask Trent!) called Asian Star... OH my goodness it was soooo yummy.
And that was our day! It was a good year :)
Monday, February 28, 2011
A little history...
Trent lived in West Jordan, I lived in West Haven. Distance? 50 miles and a little over an hour drive... We only saw each other during the week on special occasions, however I spent every weekend down there! It was a difficult way to sustain a relationship, so on August 13th, 2010 I made the move down to Salt Lake...
"How We Met"
I guess the first posts of these should always be the "How we met..." post, right? So I'll tell you our story; it's nothing fancy or romantic, it's actually very... boring. Haha. We both do Photography and became 'friends' on MySpace (sad, isn't it?) and would respond to each other's bulletin posts every couple of days and eventually started talking. After a few of weeks we decided to exchange phone numbers and soon the harmless flirting began... However, the 'harmless flirting' never turned into anymore than just that. We were both just out of ending relationships and didn't really want to start anything new, we were just looking for friendship.
This lasted for quite a few months with us even going out on dates and it just feeling so awkward... we got along great, but we just weren't ready I guess! We decided just to stay friends. Then Trent asked me to go camping with his family over the 24th of July weekend in 2009; I decided to go and we had a blast! But still... nothing happened, haha. A few weeks later he came camping with my family and the same thing happened... nothing. Well, I was getting a little frustrated by this time... We had been fairly good friends for 8 months and got along great - why wasn't this working?
Out of simply hope and wishing for good luck, I invited him to my cousins birthday dinner. Every year we all end up going to Olive Garden as a family and it's a really fun time! I don't know why I felt like I should invite him, but something in me was like "just try this, see how it goes...". So I did. The night was awesome. It was the same week in August where the sky was filled with Meteor Showers and everything just played out... and somehow we end up kissing goodnight. ;)
Well that's that! We've been dating ever since :) August 12th, 2009.
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